The Libido Fairy Podcast #117: Maybe It's Not Low Sex Drive...
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Dec 10, 2025 Dive into the complex world of libido as the host reexamines the concept of low sex drive. Discover how our brains predict sexual outcomes and how past experiences impact desire. Using a unique book analogy, the discussion reveals how negative experiences can create avoidance. Explore the interplay of emotional safety and communication in restoring intimacy. Gain insights into transforming your sexual landscape by creating new, positive associations. This conversation promises to shed light on the nuances of desire and connection.
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Desire Is A Predictive Reward System
- Desire functions like a reward system rather than an automatic drive like hunger or thirst.
- Your brain predicts value and only motivates you toward experiences it expects to be rewarding.
Avoidance Is Protection, Not Asexuality
- If past sexual experiences are stressful, painful, or disconnected your brain will stop motivating you toward sex.
- That avoidance is a protective response, not inherently low libido or asexuality.
Validation Fueled Early Sexual Desire
- Hannah shares that her teen/early-20s sex motivation was to get attention and validation from partners.
- Once she achieved a relationship, the chase reward disappeared and so did her desire.