Love Life With Matthew Hussey Why You Obsess in Early Dating | Matt Monday
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Dec 22, 2025 Early dating can turn us into people we don't recognize, filled with anxiety and overthinking. Matthew dives into the attachment styles that shape our dating reactions, revealing how anxious and avoidant patterns escalate tensions. He emphasizes the importance of leading instead of reacting to foster confidence and positive dynamics. By modeling secure behaviors, anxious individuals can find stability, while avoidant partners can embrace vulnerability as a strength. Both must take accountability to create a healing, loving environment.
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Early Dating Amplifies Attachment Patterns
- Early dating often pushes people into exaggerated versions of their attachment patterns.
- Those extremes make you behave in ways you later dislike and don't recognize.
Small Tendencies Create Big Spirals
- Small anxious and avoidant tendencies can trigger a mutual escalation loop.
- Each person's mild response pushes the other further into their extreme, creating a downward spiral.
Model The Relationship You Want
- Lead the relationship by modelling the secure dynamic you want rather than reacting to fear.
- Embody the communication and boundaries of your ideal long-term relationship now to test compatibility.