Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 552 - Why Your Partner Doesn’t Plan Stuff (And What You Can Do About It)
Oct 21, 2025
Discover the intriguing world of planfulness and its impact on relationships. Explore how different individuals approach scheduling and managing obligations, from the future-focused 'owl' to the adaptable 'dolphin.' Learn about the 'Zodiac of Planfulness' and gain insights into how planfulness isn't binary. Uncover practical strategies like the PECS framework for effective communication and implementing if-then plans to ease planning burdens. Strengthen partnerships by leveraging complementary strengths and tackling planning challenges together.
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Jace's Scheduling Anxiety
- Jace describes scheduling anxiety tied to fear of needing to reschedule and disappointing others.
- He prefers group planning to avoid making a mistake alone.
Three-Part Definition Of Planfulness
- Planfulness has three components: temporal orientation, mental flexibility, and cognitive strategies.
- These components explain planning differences beyond motivation or impulsivity.
Planfulness Is Separate From Motivation
- Planfulness is distinct from motivation and impulsivity and can compensate for them.
- You can plan carefully yet still act impulsively, or use strategies to mitigate impulsivity.