Confronting the Destructive Impact of Porn with Nick Stumbo of Pure Desire | Ep. 669

Porn is doing real damage to too many Christians today. This issue is affecting a huge percentage of our brothers and sisters in Christ, and the shame that often prevents us from talking about it leads to secrecy and hinders healing. 

We’re thankful that Nick Stumbo is on the podcast today. Nick is a pastor and the director of Pure Desire Ministries. Along with Barna, Pure Desire recently conducted a study on the impact porn is currently having on the Church in America. Their findings demonstrate how crucial it is to open the conversation about porn among Christians to help them find healing from its destructive impact.  

 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

• What the stats tell us about how many Christians are viewing porn regularly

• Why talking openly is ESSENTIAL for healing 

• Exposing the progressive nature of porn addiction 

• How to make church a place where openness is possible 

• What to do if your church is not a safe place to confess 

• How to prepare your kids to handle porn exposure safely 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: The enemy would love for you to stay stuck in secrecy and shame. Jesus wants to bring freedom and healing. Take a step toward freedom today. 

Questions to Discuss: 

1. Do you have a safe friend you can be honest with? Are you practicing confession and accountability in your life? What can you do to help cultivate an honest, godly friendship today? 

2. What is God prompting you need to take responsibility for so that you can grow closer to Him and your spouse today? 

 

QUOTES 

• “Most people won’t be surprised to know that the numbers are continuing to grow.” - Nick Stumbo 

• “To my knowledge, it’s the first time in history that the majority of practicing Christians say they are doing pornography.” - Nick Stumbo 

• “84% of people said there is NO ONE helping them avoid pornography.” - Nick Stumbo 

• “If shame and secrecy are the sickness, then openness, community and love are what healing is all about.” - Nick Stumbo 

• “By the time it blows up a marriage, the help was needed 5-10 years ago.” - Nick Stumbo

• “You’re not alone. There is help and hope for you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

• “True accountability is about me learning to be responsible for my own actions and behaviors.” - Nick Stumbo 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

• Pure Desire offers healing groups and great resources to help you find freedom from porn. Check them out here. 

• Get the stats: Read the research by Barna and Pure Desire HERE 

• If porn has impacted your marriage, take Dr. Kim’s 5 Steps to Healing After Porn Betrayal webinar to kickstart your marriage healing.

• We recommend the book Good Pictures / Bad Pictures to help equip your kids against porn exposure.