Choosing values over chemistry

In this podcast episode, dating coach Evan Mark Katz addresses a reader's question about how to be sure if her doubts about her boyfriend are valid concerns or just a search for perfection. Katz emphasizes that while her boyfriend has many positive qualities, such as integrity, affection, and generosity, marriage is not solely based on loyalty and stability. It also requires a personal connection and compatibility in areas like communication, shared values, and conflict resolution. Katz advises choosing values over chemistry and emphasizes that a strong personal chemistry, including laughter, enjoyable company, and a spark in the bedroom, is crucial. He also highlights that having doubts is not necessarily a sign of a broken relationship, but rather an opportunity to gather information and trust both intuition and rational thinking when making a decision.