Attention Different | Adulting with ADHD "I Have a Habit of Lying to Myself": Self-Care vs. Avoidance w/Sam Pitts-Rogers | Firesides Ep. 07
đź’ˇ "I have a habit of lying to myself and telling myself it's self-care."
What if the comfort zone you've built is actually keeping you from the life you want?
In this Fireside Chat, we sit down with Sam—an HR professional at a Big Four consulting firm who was diagnosed with ADHD at 38. She opens up about flying under the radar as a "daydreamer type," the unique ways ADHD shows up in women, and her journey to building the connected, authentic life she's been searching for as she approaches 40.
🌲 Filmed in the Rocky Mountains of Colorado, this conversation explores the gap between self-care and avoidance, the power of saying yes when it's easier to stay home, and why coping strategies often look like success from the outside.
✨ Highlights ✨
🏠Why looking "organized" doesn't mean you don't have ADHD—it means you've mastered coping strategies.
đź‘Ą The post-COVID comfort trap: when staying home feels like self-care but keeps you from community.
🎯 Process goals vs. outcome goals: Why "saying yes to new things" matters more than the end result.
đź’ How ADHD in women gets missed.
🌱 Radical acceptance as a non-linear journey: three steps forward, two steps back—and that's still progress.
This episode is for anyone who's ever cancelled plans an hour before, justified it as "overwhelm," and wondered why they can't seem to build the community they crave.
📺 Watch the full Fireside Chat with Sam now on Attention Different YouTube: 👉 youtube.com/@attentiondifferent
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