Life Coaching with Christine Hassler EP 293: Having a Heart So Big it Hurts Sometimes with Beth
This episode is about loving your big feelings and emotions. Today’s caller, Beth, wants to feel comfortable in her skin. In her childhood home, her gift of being an empath became a liability. Whoever is the most open, the most sensitive one in a family often absorbs everyone else's feelings. Beth would like guidance on how to keep her heart open but not feel overwhelmed by her feelings.
[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode293]
In today's world, it's often hard to keep our hearts open. So many people are numb, or shut down from feeling, or are scared to feel the “negative” feelings like sadness and anger, or have built walls and around their hearts and wear masks every day. When we are empathic and live among people who suppress, we feel it all.
Oftentimes, what makes an empath’s heart hurt is feeling sympathy or sorry. It is feeling someone else's pain and suffering so much so that we feel bad for them. It is a judgment. When we are in sympathy we are judging.
The truth is none of us want to be blissfully ignorant. Ignorance really isn’t bliss. We may think it is and think back to a time when maybe we weren’t so awake and aware and romanticize it, thinking maybe it was better, but it really isn’t. We are here to evolve. We are here to awaken. And although it comes with many challenges, going back into being asleep is not an option.
Feelings are part of our life force and tears are not bad. Celebrate yourself.
Join us for our Love and Relationship Group Coaching Call on April 22 at 5 pm Central. It will be recorded if you can’t make it. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group. It’s $20. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Are you a soft-hearted person or do you tend to cry about a lot of things?
- Have you ever been told you're “too sensitive”?
- Do you downplay challenges or trauma from childhood and think your childhood wasn’t that bad?
Beth’s Question:
Beth would like guidance on how to be more self-aware.
Beth’s Key Insights and Ahas:
- She’s become more aware from doing personal development work.
- She thinks peace might be unattainable for her.
- She is not comfortable in her skin and feels like a sham.
- She is a single mom.
- She is very emotional and sometimes wishes she was not.
- She carries shame about being soft-hearted.
- She cries easily.
- She was a middle child who felt alone.
- People tell her she is too emotional.
- She has the gift of being an empath.
- She attended the Inner Child Workshop.
- No one encouraged her emotional intelligence.
- She was teased as a kid.
- She had temper tantrums at home.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
- Stop judging herself for how she feels.
- Welcome her feelings when they arise.
- Do not hold other people’s feelings.
- Do not feel sympathy for others.
- Meditate and ask for spiritual assistance.
Takeaways:
- Release, rather than recycle your feelings.
- Parent your sensitive, beautiful inner child.
- Get the anger out. Download the anger release process at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.
- Join in on this week's Group Coaching Call.
Sponsor:
Organifi — is an organic superfood powdered tea that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and delicious. Shift your nutritional intake in a simple way. For 20% off your order, go to Organifi.com/overit and use the code “OVERIT” at checkout to receive 20% off all products.
Resources:
Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Assist@ChristineHassler.com
Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.
Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show
Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.