Revolutionary Codes For The Future of Relationships w/ Vylana & Marc Gafni #474

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Oct 23, 2024

Vylana, a personal development expert and co-creator of the Romantically Fit masterclass, joins her husband Aubrey and Rebbe Marc Gafni, an author focused on relationships and consciousness. They candidly share their own relationship crisis and how they emerged stronger. The conversation explores overcoming jealousy, evolving intimacy, and the significance of vulnerability. They also introduce the concept of 'wholemate relationships' that prioritize collective well-being, encouraging a transformative approach to love that reshapes connections.

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The State of Relationships

Most couples are not genuinely happy or fulfilled in their relationships.
This issue affects society as marriage is a fundamental unit, impacting all of reality.

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Reality, Relationships, and Love

Reality is fundamentally made of relationships, not just atoms, and these relationships are driven by allurement and autonomy.
True love requires a balance between these two forces, not just attraction.

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Intimacy, Evolution, and Crisis

Intimacy constantly wants to evolve, and this evolution is driven by crises.
These crises can only be resolved by reaching a new level of intimacy.

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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

John Gray

This book, written by Dr. John Gray, uses the metaphor of men being from Mars and women from Venus to explain the fundamental psychological differences between the sexes. Based on years of successful counseling, it helps couples transform their relationships by acknowledging and respecting these differences. The book provides insights into how men and women respond to stress, their communication styles, and their emotional needs, offering practical advice on how to communicate without conflicts and foster intimacy.

Getting the Love You Want

A Guide for Couples

Harville Hendrix

Helen LaKelly Hunt

This book, written by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, explains how unconscious childhood experiences influence adult relationships. It suggests that people often choose partners who resemble their caregivers, hoping to resolve unfinished childhood issues. The authors provide a structured approach, including the 'Imago Dialogue,' to help couples communicate effectively, resolve power struggles, and heal early childhood wounds. The book combines behavioral science, depth psychology, social learning theory, Gestalt therapy, and interpersonal neuroscience to enhance closeness and fulfill relationships[2][3][5].

Beyond Venus and Mars

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John Gray

The five love languages

singles edition

Gary Chapman

In this book, Dr. Gary Chapman outlines five general ways that romantic partners express and experience love, which he calls 'love languages'. By learning these languages, individuals can discover their unique love languages and those of their loved ones, leading to deeper and richer levels of intimacy. The book includes practical steps and a love language assessment to help strengthen relationships. It emphasizes that people tend to give love in the way they prefer to receive it, and understanding these differences can improve communication and relationship satisfaction.

Love Story

Erich Segal

The novel tells the story of Oliver Barrett IV, a wealthy jock from a traditional family, and Jennifer 'Jenny' Cavilleri, a quick-witted musician from a working-class Italian-American household. Despite their different backgrounds, they fall deeply in love, but their relationship is marked by tragedy when Jenny is diagnosed with terminal leukemia. The story explores themes of love, loss, and personal growth, and it is known for its emotional impact and the iconic line 'Love means never having to say you're sorry'.