F*ck Around and Find Out Parenting

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Apr 15, 2025

Dive into the intriguing world of FAFO parenting, where parents let kids face natural consequences. Explore whether this trend is a pushback against gentle parenting or a response to millennial burnout. Discover the struggle against overwhelming parenting advice and the need for balance between empowerment and over-protectiveness. This fresh perspective encourages intentional guidance that fosters independence in children, helping them navigate their own challenges.

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INSIGHT

FAFO Parenting's Appeal

FAFO parenting's popularity stems from parental burnout and information overload, particularly concerning gentle parenting.
It offers a seemingly simple alternative to constant self-doubt and pressure to be perfect.

ANECDOTE

Overwhelmed Parent

Dr. Becky recounts a conversation with an overwhelmed parent bombarded with conflicting parenting advice.
The parent felt pressured by unnamed experts claiming their every action would irrevocably impact their child's future.

ADVICE

Intentional Consequences

Dr. Becky suggests letting kids experience natural consequences, like forgetting homework, to build resilience.
However, she cautions against doing this out of resentment or setting them up for harmful situations.

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“F*ck Around and Find Out” parenting—what even is that?! This week, Dr. Becky dives into the rise of the FAFO parenting trend. Why is this approach gaining traction in the age of gentle parenting? Is it a pushback against gentle or intensive parenting? A response to the burnout many millennial parents are feeling? Or has it always been around, just under a different name? Dr. Becky explores what makes this trend so compelling and what it might reveal about us as parents today.

Sometimes FAFO parenting comes up when our kids are in a bad place with bad behavior. If you can relate, then you won't want to miss "Why Is Everything a Battle?" Dr. Becky's Live Workshop on Power Struggles, Defiance, and Strong-Willed Kids happening on Thursday, Apr 17 from 01:30 PM - 02:45 PM EDT. RSVP here: https://bit.ly/3RqW7nU.

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