Do you really know? What is cookie jarring in the dating world?
Aug 21, 2025
Explore the intriguing concept of cookie jarring in dating, where someone keeps their options open while leading others on. Discover the emotional impact on those left waiting and learn how to recognize the signs of being a backup option. The discussion dives into practical strategies to avoid getting cookie-jarrred, ensuring you can navigate the dating world with confidence. Plus, gain insights into similar dating dynamics like falling in love with AI and the potential of zero dates!
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When Exes Reappear As Backups
- An ex or casual partner may reappear only when they're lonely or their other options fail.
- These behaviors are classic examples of being kept as a backup without your knowing.
Why It's Called Cookie Jarring
- Cookie jarring means someone contacts you when their other relationship is uncertain or unavailable.
- The metaphor compares reaching for you to reaching for a cookie when seeking a quick pick-me-up.
Experts Note The Typical Cookie Jarrer
- Psychologist Catalina Lawson says cookie jarrers are often already in a long-term or promising relationship.
- They keep others on the side as backups while maintaining their primary partnership.