In this episode, Brooke McAlary chats with Beth Kempton, an author and Japanologist. They discuss the concept of wabi sabi, how it helps us seek meaning beyond materialism, and its power to change the world. They also explore the beauty of creating moments of slowness in a busy life. The episode covers the contrasts in Japanese culture and Tokyo's atmosphere, the impact of American culture on Japan, and practical advice for mindfulness and embracing failure for growth and learning.
Cultivating curiosity and embracing the joy of growth and discovery is a simple and effective way to bring slow living into daily life.
Practicing mindfulness and being present in the moment through wabi-sabi can cultivate contentment and acceptance, helping navigate through life's challenges with grace.
Deep dives
Curiosity and the Power of Being Curious
One of the simplest and most effective ways to bring slow living into daily life is to cultivate curiosity. By picking something to be curious about and exploring it, whether it's a color, a topic, or an idea, you open up new possibilities for learning and experiencing. By being curious, you notice the details and the world around you, taking the time to pause and reflect. This mindset allows you to let go of rigid goals and embrace the joy of growth and discovery.
The Art of Noticing and Being Present
Wabi-Sabi encourages us to notice and appreciate the small details of life and to be present in the moment. By practicing mindfulness, you can stretch time and create pockets of slow in your day-to-day life. Take the time to really see, hear, smell, and feel what is happening around you. By grounding yourself in the present moment, you cultivate a sense of contentment and acceptance, allowing you to navigate through life's challenges with grace.
Reframing Failure and Embracing Growth
Wabi-Sabi offers a new perspective on failure. Rather than viewing failure as a negative outcome or a personal flaw, embrace it as an opportunity for growth and learning. In Japanese culture, there is a focus on doing your best and honing your craft, rather than striving for perfection. By letting go of rigid goals and embracing the process of constant growth, you open yourself up to new possibilities and paths in life.
Finding Pockets of Slow in a Fast-Paced World
Despite the hustle and bustle of modern life, it is possible to find pockets of slow and beauty. Just like in Tokyo, where busy urban streets can hide pockets of calm and green spaces, you can create your own moments of peace and stillness. Whether it's taking a quiet walk in nature, practicing a ritual like Onsen bathing, or simply pausing to appreciate the beauty around you, incorporating these slow moments into your life can have a profound impact on your well-being and connection to the world.
This season has been an exploration of slow living through a variety of different lenses, looking at what constitutes ‘slow’ from new perspectives.
Today’s episode, the second-last of the season, is no different as Brooke chats with author and Japanologist Beth Kempton about slow living through the lens of Japanese culture. Or more specifically, through the lens of wabi sabi.
Complex to define, wabi sabi is an exploration of acceptance and contentment. An acknowledgement of the true nature of life and as such is a really powerful way of shifting our worldview.
Beth introduces Brooke to this complex nature of wabi sabi and they discuss how the idea of perfect imperfection can impact the way we purchase and consume things, the way we connect with people and the environment around us, and how it’s a welcome respite in a world that calls us to constant comparison and competition.
They discuss whether wabi sabi, or any personal philosophy really, has the power to change the world as well as the beauty of creating and honouring pockets and rituals of slowness in a busy life.
Questions featured in this episode:
What is wabi sabi?
Wabi sabi is the opposite to many of the things harming people and planet – mass consumption, convenience, keeping up with the Joneses etc. Do you think it has the power to change the world?
You write that wabi sabi helps us to seek meaning beyond materialism. How does it do that?
Do you think that contentment – as opposed to outright brilliant happiness – is something worth striving for?
What are some small rituals that we can adopt in to our lives now that help us to bend and stretch time, slowing it down and making it feel abundant?