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The Best of You

Episode 37: The Problem With Toxic Thinking & How to Name, Tame, and Transform the Messages You Tell Yourself

Jan 19, 2023
46:31

Today, we're discussing how to detox from the false beliefs that keep us stuck in unhealthy patterns of relating to other people. 

These hidden messages are sneaky. They might sound true in the moment, but they keep us from the healthy two-way relationships we need.

Here's what we discuss:

1. Examples of toxic thinking

2. How it contaminates our relationships

3. An example of toxic thinking from the Bible

4. How to re-frame toxic thoughts

Plus, I answer your questions:

—How do I communicate with other people about what I'm going through? 

—Can spiritual bypassing become a form of numbing?

Find a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here.


Thanks to our sponsor:

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Resources in this episode:

  • For more on The 7 Red Flags of Friendship and Spiritual Bypassing, see Chapters 8 and 10 of The Best of You, by Dr. Alison Cook
  • Episode 1: What Is Narcissism Really?
  • Episode 2: What Should I Know About Gaslighting?
  • Episode 35: Change is Hard–Why We All Need to Detox From Unhealthy Dependencies From Time to Time
  • Episode 36: An Update on My Social Media Detox & How to Create Boundaries With Toxic Distractions, Numbing, & Unhealthy Coping Tactics


Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling  advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content  and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes  only.

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