Mojo for the Modern Man Healing and Transcending Shame: A Love Story with Steven Wolt
In today's episode of Mojo for the Modern Man, I had a powerful conversation with Steven Wolt, whose journey from childhood trauma to redemption offers a masterclass in masculine transformation. Growing up near New York City with a physically violent father, Steven masked his inner turmoil behind athletic achievements and later financial success, becoming a high-flying executive while secretly battling depression and disconnection. What fascinated me was how his seven-figure income and outward success actually intensified his inner emptiness, driving him deeper into alcohol, drugs, and porn addiction until his spectacular professional implosion in 2008. The turning point came through a treatment program specifically addressing sex addiction and childhood trauma, leading to a recovery path that challenged everything he thought he knew about being a man.
Now heading Valor Recovery, Steven helps others trapped in similar cycles, particularly around porn addiction and intimacy issues. His redefinition of masculinity – prioritizing vulnerability, honor and genuine connection over conquest and toughness – resonated deeply with me, especially his insight that "men need other men to become better men." The conversation left me reflecting on how many of us are still living by outdated masculine scripts that promise strength but deliver isolation instead.