Traver Boehm - Victimhood, Incels, And Modern Masculine Culture
Jan 31, 2022
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Traver Boehm, an expert on men and their challenges, discusses volatile aspects of modern masculine culture. Topics include incel ideology, redpill rhetoric, rise of victimhood narratives, men's mental health and relationship difficulties, and the importance of men's support networks.
Empowering men involves developing self leadership and taking responsibility for their lives.
Challenging negative beliefs about women can help men develop healthier relationships.
Finding purpose and pursuing personal growth can shift men's mindset from victimhood to empowerment.
Deep dives
Empowering Men Through Self Leadership
The key to empowering men who have fallen into the victim mindset is to focus on self leadership. Helping men develop the skills to lead themselves effectively in various aspects of their lives, such as their relationships, finances, and personal growth, can lead to a sense of direction, fulfillment, and reward. By shifting the focus from blaming others, particularly women, to taking responsibility for their own lives, men can create positive change and attract the kind of relationships they desire. Encouraging men to confront their own pain, shadows, and sabotage mechanisms is also essential for personal growth and empowerment.
Exploring Beliefs About Women
Investigating and challenging beliefs about women is another important step in inspiring empowerment in men. Many men who have been influenced by red pill or MGTOW communities may hold negative, polarized views about women. It is crucial to help them understand that their beliefs are a reflection of their unconscious mind and the parts of themselves they may not want to confront. By fostering empathy and shifting these beliefs, men can develop a healthier relationship with women and themselves.
Developing a Sense of Purpose and Direction
Encouraging men to find their purpose and develop a sense of direction in life can be transformative. Helping them focus on personal growth, setting goals, and pursuing passions can shift their mindset from victimhood to empowerment. By investing in themselves through physical fitness, personal development, and building a fulfilling career or business, men can become more confident and attract the kind of life they desire.
Supporting a Strong Community and Connection
Creating a support network of like-minded men who are focused on personal growth and empowerment can be invaluable. Having a community of individuals who believe in each other's potential and provide a safe space for open dialogue and support can help men overcome feelings of hopelessness and isolation. Building strong connections with conscious and initiated communities can provide the sacred, communal experience that empowers men.
The Importance of Confronting the Heart
The episode explores the significance of men embracing and connecting with their emotions, specifically their capacity for compassion and vulnerability. It highlights the challenges men face in society and the allure of certain online communities that provide a sense of mentorship and rules for interaction. However, it emphasizes the need for men to also cultivate a connection to something bigger and engage with the world in a heartfelt way, despite the discomfort and vulnerability it may entail.
Overcoming Victimhood and Embracing Growth
The conversation delves into the concept of victimhood and its connection to safety and comfort. It addresses the tendency of some men to gravitate towards playing the victim as a way to avoid taking risks and facing their own powerlessness. The episode suggests that men can break free from this pattern by recognizing their own agency and capacity for change, and by seeking support from other conscious men who have gone through a similar journey of self-discovery and growth.
This week isn't so much an interview. Instead, a long-ranging conversation with an old friend focused around some of the more, uh, volatile aspects of modern masculine culture. The functionality of incel ideology, redpill rhetoric, the rise of victimhood narratives on all sides. In short, we're talking about some heavy stuff. Expect an open dialogue and frank opinions.
Traver Boehm knows men. How they think, what’s behind their behavior, and most importantly — their unique challenges in the modern landscape.
Traver is the the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, the fastest growing men’s movement in the world. He is the author of Today I Rise, and Man UNcivilized as well as a two time TEDx speaker, men’s coach and podcaster.
Drawing upon an eclectic background ranging from professional bodyguard and Mixed Martial Arts to a Master’s Degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and meditation, Traver counsels men, women, and couples on how to better understand men’s mental health and relationship difficulties.
Although he’s not quite sure how to feel about the title, he has been dubbed, “The Man Whisperer” as he has the unique ability to speak to men in a way they can hear and understand.
