Sons of Patriarchy When Joe Rigney Covered for a Porn Addict (and Discipline the Wife)
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Dec 18, 2025 In a gripping conversation, Rachel Curtis, a former member of Cities Church, shares her painful journey of excommunication after leaving an abusive marriage. She reveals the depths of spiritual abuse and how church leaders, like Joe Rigney, failed her during her husband's struggles with pornography. Kate West, author of 'Rift', reflects on growing up in a patriarchal community influenced by Doug Wilson, highlighting the shame and control she faced as a stay-at-home daughter. Together, they discuss empowerment, healing, and the importance of seeking support outside patriarchal structures.
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Pastoral Reliance Turned Betrayal
- Rachel Curtis describes years of pastoral reliance while her husband hid pornography and lying.
- She sought Joe Rigney's help for three years before realizing pastors were defending her husband.
Phone Call That Changed Everything
- After a harsh two-hour phone call, Rachel said Rigney defended her husband and accused her of projecting.
- She later faced public excommunication while her husband's unrepentant behavior continued.
Restoration Prematurely Granted
- Joe Rigney emailed pastors were encouraged by her husband's progress and planned restoration to worship team.
- Rachel discovered continued sin weeks later and received no follow-up from Rigney.
