The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

212: My Husband Treats Me Like a Roommate

Dec 12, 2023

Feeling like roommates in a marriage can leave you cold and lonely. One guest shares her inspiring journey from emotional disconnection to rekindled passion and connection. The podcast explores transforming negativity into attraction and the power of vulnerability in relationships. Practical strategies like embracing receptivity and practicing gratitude are discussed, alongside the importance of community support for personal growth. These insights aim to inspire couples to evolve from feeling like roommates to experiencing true soulmate connections.

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Quick takeaways

Feeling treated like a roommate in marriage often leads to loneliness, rejection, and frustration among wives seeking emotional connection.

Transforming a marriage's intimacy starts by enhancing one's own attractiveness and fostering a positive demeanor, rather than voicing complaints.

Engaging in self-care and accepting love can significantly enhance a marriage by fostering appreciation, collaboration, and mutual support.

Deep dives

Overcoming the Roommate Syndrome

Many women experience a lack of emotional connection in their marriages, often resulting in a feeling of being treated like a roommate. This scenario can create feelings of loneliness and rejection, leading to frustration and resentment. Instead of addressing the root causes through communication, many fall into a cycle of nagging, which exacerbates the distance in their relationship. By reframing the approach and focusing on individual attitudes and behaviors, couples can transform their interactions and restore intimacy.

Intro

2min

Transforming Negativity into Attraction

3min

Reconnecting Through Receptivity in Marriage

3min

Navigating Marital Challenges

17min

Transformative Communication in Marriage

23min

Fostering Healthy Relationships

9min

Reigniting Connection: A Journey Through Marriage

12min

Building a Thriving Marriage through Community and Personal Growth

2min

When your husband treats you like a roommate, it feels cold and lonely. You didn’t get married to have a roommate! You got married to enjoy each other’s company, to enjoy passion, and if you’re anything like me, to feel desired. So getting the roommate treatment is a bait-and-switch that can make you feel rejected and abandoned as a wife. It’s also embarrassing. At least it was for me, because I felt like it was proof that I wasn’t desirable, which I wasn’t, and that our marriage was falling apart, which it was. So I had lots of problems and no idea where to start because I had already tried the oft-repeated advice to share my deep concerns about his lack of affection, and let me tell you: That. Did. Not. Work. It did not make him pull me in for a kiss and whisk me away to the bedroom, which is what I secretly wanted. That was painful. So on today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about what to do when your husband treats you like a roommate.

Plus, my guest Deena’s marriage felt cold and distant, like roommates who were either fighting or having a cold war most of the time. The threat of divorce was hanging over them. Then Deena decided to do a few things differently and instead of roommates she says they feel like soulmates. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too!

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