Perfectionism Rewired How Can I Stop Comparing Myself
Jan 30, 2025
Perfectionists struggle with self-comparison, often leading to hidden costs like self-punishment. Tactical approaches to stop comparing fall flat; it's essential to focus on skill development rather than mere knowledge. Scientific insights reveal why perfectionists find it harder to break this cycle. The podcast illustrates this through a fascinating study on Olympic medalists, showing that silver medalists often feel more disappointment than bronze ones. Embracing acceptance and choosing growth over a fear of failure are key to rewiring these harmful habits.
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Comparing Is Self-Punishment
- Comparing yourself is a form of self-punishment that undermines your confidence and well-being.
- It creates a vicious cycle where you avoid yourself and diminish your momentum over time.
Stop Fighting, Build Skills Instead
- Avoid the "stop it" approach to stop comparing yourself; it only fights against your brain's beliefs.
- Focus on developing skill sets through practice instead of relying on intellect or knowledge alone.
Accept Comparing Without Judgment
- Accept self-comparing without judgment to start rewiring it, instead of making yourself wrong for it.
- Acceptance means allowing this habit without agreeing to it, which helps dissolve frustration.