Ryan Michler - Brotherhood, Isolation, And Rising Above The Noise

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Feb 24, 2025

Ryan Michler, a husband, father, Iraqi Combat Veteran, and founder of Order of Man, dives into the crucial need for male friendships in our modern era of isolation. He discusses how technology can exacerbate loneliness among men and critiques the wellness industry's approach to men's mental health. The conversation highlights the importance of vulnerability, confrontation, and shared experiences in fostering deeper connections. With insights on the evolving nature of male bonds, Michler inspires men to reclaim their roles as protectors and community leaders.

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INSIGHT

Men's Need for Shared Purpose

Men need a shared purpose to connect, unlike women who are generally more relational.
Modern ease reduces tangible reliance on other men, but the emotional need remains.

INSIGHT

Modern Life's Impact on Male Bonds

Women connect easily, while men require a shared mission or purpose, often found in sports or military service.
Modern life removes the survival need for male bonding, impacting deeper emotional connections.

ANECDOTE

Doing-Based Friendships

Connor Beaton realized he underestimated the activity-based nature of his male friendships.
He recalls having distinct groups of friends based on shared activities like playing pool or going to bars.

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Talking points: friendship, masculinity,

Ryan Michler and I have been in the men's work biz for a long time, and we've seen the changes—some good, some bad—in how men are talked about and marketed to by our culture and by the wellness and therapy industries. We dig into the necessity of male friendship in the face of growing isolationism, the upcoming Men's Forge, and a whole lot more. Listen in, team.

(00:00:00) - Intro and why does it seem like men are having a harder time maintaining relationships?

(00:12:27) - On men needing social time and where modern therapy misses the mark

(00:17:56) - How are men contributing to their own isolation and loneliness?

(00:31:44) - On the importance of some confrontation in male friendships

(00:38:32) - Why men need brotherhood as well as challenge, and what to do if you want deeper friendships with other men

Ryan Michler is a husband, father, Iraqi Combat Veteran, and the Founder of Order of Man. Ryan grew up without a permanent father figure and has seen first-hand how a lack of strong, ambitious, self-sufficient men has impacted society today. He believes many of the world’s most complicated problems could be solved if men everywhere learned how to be better husbands, fathers, businessmen, and community leaders.

It has now become his life’s mission to help men across the planet step more fully into their roles as protectors, providers, and presiders over themselves, their families, their businesses, and their communities. You can find him blogging and podcasting at Order of Man where he is working to help men become all they were meant to be.

Connect with Ryan

-Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491

-Website: https://www.orderofman.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanmichler/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/ryanmichler

-Book: The Masculinity Manifesto: https://amzn.to/3jJcmiE

-Book: Sovereignty: https://amzn.to/3G6zwqQ

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