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Ask Daily Stoic: Ryan and Mark Manson Discuss What You Should Actually Give a F*** About

Aug 29, 2020

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Mark Manson

In this conversation, best-selling author Mark Manson delves into the art of prioritizing what truly matters in life. He and Ryan explore the tension between independence and conformity, and Manson shares his experiences navigating success and the pressure that follows a hit book. The duo also reflects on the complexities of authenticity in writing and the emotional toll of public scrutiny. They discuss embracing uncertainty as a pathway to freedom, emphasizing the importance of aligning one’s values with personal passions over societal expectations.

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INSIGHT

Giving the Right Fucks

The premise of "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" is not about apathy.
It's about prioritizing what truly matters and choosing the right things to care about.

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INSIGHT

Evolving Priorities

Life priorities are not static; they change as we grow and evolve.
Regularly reassessing values ensures we stay aligned with our current selves.

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ADVICE

Define Your Values

Consciously define your values.
Otherwise, you risk adopting others' values by default, leading to an inauthentic life.

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Navigating Language and Values: A Philosophical Dialogue

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Navigating Values and Success

08:59 • 23min

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Navigating Success and Authenticity

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Navigating Public Perception and Success

37:56 • 12min

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Embracing Uncertainty: The Freedom in Not Knowing

50:13 • 3min

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Talking to Strangers

What We Should Know about the People We Don't Know

Malcolm Gladwell

In 'Talking to Strangers', Malcolm Gladwell delves into the challenges and misunderstandings that occur when we interact with people we do not know. The book explores various high-profile cases, such as the death of Sandra Bland, the deceptions of Bernie Madoff, and the interactions between Neville Chamberlain and Adolf Hitler. Gladwell argues that our default assumption to trust strangers until proven otherwise often leads to disastrous outcomes. He discusses the 'default to truth' theory and how our perceptions of strangers can be skewed by preconceived notions and stereotypes. The book provides insights into human psychology and communication, highlighting the importance of being aware of our assumptions when dealing with strangers.

Everything is Fucked

A Book About Hope

Mark Manson

In this book, Mark Manson explores the crisis of hope in modern society, arguing that despite significant improvements in global health, wealth, and safety, people are experiencing a sense of hopelessness. He delves into the nature of human existence, the role of emotions, and the importance of pain in personal growth. Manson critiques the self-help industry and modern societal values, advocating for a more intrinsic and unconditional approach to living. He draws on philosophical ideas, particularly from Friedrich Nietzsche, and presents a unique perspective on how to find meaning and purpose in a seemingly meaningless world.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

Mark Manson

In this book, Mark Manson argues against the typical self-help advice of constant positivity, instead suggesting that life's struggles give it meaning. He emphasizes the need to focus on what truly matters and to accept and confront painful truths. The book is divided into nine chapters and uses blunt honesty and profanity to illustrate its ideas, encouraging readers to find meaning through values they can control and to replace uncontrollable values with more meaningful ones.

The scarlet letter

Nathaniel Hawthorne

The Scarlet Letter, written by Nathaniel Hawthorne, is set in 17th-century Boston and revolves around Hester Prynne, a young woman who is publicly shamed for committing adultery. She is forced to wear a scarlet letter 'A' on her clothing as a symbol of her sin. The novel delves into themes of guilt, sin, redemption, and the strict moral codes of the Puritan community. Hester's husband, Roger Chillingworth, seeks revenge against her lover, Arthur Dimmesdale, a local minister who is wracked with guilt over his secret sin. The story explores the psychological and emotional suffering of the characters, ultimately leading to a dramatic public confession by Dimmesdale and the subsequent consequences for all involved. The novel is a classic moral study and a masterpiece of American literature, critiquing the hypocrisy and rigid moral standards of the Puritan society.

Love Is Not Enough

Mark Manson

In 'Love Is Not Enough', Mark Manson delves into the complexities of relationships by following five individuals over six months as they navigate various romantic challenges. Through candid conversations, Manson offers advice on building healthier relationships by recognizing the importance of values beyond love. The book highlights issues like dating app addiction, marital affairs, and the impact of fantasies on intimacy.

On today’s Daily Stoic Podcast, Ryan and Mark Manson (author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck) talk about working to figure out your true priorities, the balancing act between independence and conformism, how it feels to be a bestselling author, and more.

Mark Manson is a best-selling writer and blogger about living a balance, productive, and ultimately fulfilling life. He has written two New York Times best sellers, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope. Mark also publishes articles and videos about living better on his website, markmanson.net.

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