I Have ADHD Podcast 361 BITESIZE | Why Resentment Builds—and What to Do Instead
Dec 18, 2025
Join Greg Carder, who offers a unique perspective as someone who has supported a partner with ADHD. He dives into the early challenges of their relationship, highlighting the importance of personal responsibility in tackling resentment. Greg explains that resentment often signals unmet needs and shares a practical tip: wait in the car to diffuse tension. He also emphasizes the value of evaluating a partner’s moral anchor and observing their actions to gauge their support capacity in a relationship.
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Resentment Is A Response To Perceived Offense
- Resentment often comes from seeing every small ADHD-related behavior as a personal offense.
- Accepting or choosing to not see those slights reduces their emotional space in the relationship.
Own Your Resentment And Solve The Problem
- Take responsibility for your own resentment and process it constructively instead of letting it become bitterness.
- Choose grace and practical solutions like getting your own toothpaste rather than stewing in resentment.
Resentment Signals An Unmet Need
- Resentment signals an unmet need that you're expecting your partner to fill.
- Identifying and meeting that need yourself prevents resentment from becoming relationship poison.