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Mathew Hussey sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about dealing with relationships. The way most of us struggle with finding the right person, when we expect too much from our partner, when we refuse to acknowledge that change is voluntary, and when the amount of energy we are willing to give to someone who isn’t at par with what we’re willing to give are the truths that are harder to accept.

Mathew Hussey is an British life coach, a YouTube personality, and the author of the New York Times bestseller Get The Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve. His podcast, Love Life with Matthew Hussey, offers practical tips you can use right away to improve all of your relationships – romantic, family, friends, career, and the relationship you have with yourself.

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What We Discuss with Matthew:

00:00 Intro
03:09 What’s your favorite story of love?
06:22 The importance of reevaluating what is actually important in a partner
12:44 It’s uncomfortable but maybe it’s teaching you something
21:21 When all the special moves don’t work and your genuine self comes out
23:56 The problem is people are falling in love too fast
25:47 How can you be nervous when you’re valuing the right things?
28:06 You obsess over what they could have been
32:59 Don’t be upset when you lose a poet, the poetry is the relationship
35:49 A moment where you genuinely are brave enough to let someone in and be seen
39:03 When you come out of an argument bleeding every time
44:31 People aren’t comfortable in being an area they can be criticized
47:32 The culture you create will have an impact in the people around you
50:53 Give an amount of energy you are willing to lose
55:34 Experiencing the endless ocean of disappointment
01:00:00 There is someone that uniquely vibes with your personality
01:03:35 You can’t change a person when they don’t want to
01:09:43 You’ve never been heartbroken, have you?
01:13:35 Staying in unhappy for a long time makes it difficult to entertain the the idea of leaving
01:18:40 The 30-Day Confidence Challenge
01:22:25 Matthew on Fast Five

Episode Resources:

Matthew Hussey | Twitter
Matthew Hussey | Instagram
Matthew Hussey | YouTube
Matthew Hussey | Facebook
How To Get The Guy
Get The Guy Book

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