Melinda Van Fleet – Lessons From Your Mistakes Make You Confident

Jun 22, 2021

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BIO: Melinda Van Fleet is a Confidence & Peak Performance coach, bestselling author of Confidence Mastery for Couples and speaker, who works with business women to believe in themselves, take action and get results.

STORY: Melinda got trapped in the allure of online courses. She would buy classes on a whim without taking time to discern if they were really necessary. She ended up spending so much money on courses that never helped her or her business.

LEARNING: Take your time to discern if you really need a course and if you buy it and it’s not what you want now, don’t rub it off completely; keep it aside you may need it in the future.

“At the end of every storm, there’s a rainbow. You just have to keep the faith, keep going, and know innately that it will work out.”

Melinda Van Fleet

Guest profile

Melinda Van Fleet is a Confidence & Peak Performance coach, bestselling author of Confidence Mastery for Couples and speaker, who works with business women to believe in themselves, take action and get results. Melinda is the host of two podcasts, The Good Karma Success Coach and Confident Conversations.

Worst investment ever

Melinda’s journey with the coaching and course industry started in early 2018 when she learned about podcasting, and it opened her eyes to this whole lane of online business. The first course she did was fantastic. It got her and her husband into podcasting.

The fear of missing out

After her experience with her first course, Melinda became a coaching magnet. She went wild buying every course she came across due to fear of missing out. Some classes were good, others were not so helpful, and one was downright her worst investment ever.

Melinda’s worst investment ever

Melinda once attended an event by one of the most popular coaches. She ended up saying yes to all these things the guy was offering. Some of the things weren’t even in her background, interest, or skill set.

Melinda kept buying courses from this guy with the promise that the more she bought, the more she would learn. The promise was always that the answer is in the next course. She fell for it and ended up spending so much money and never got anything out of the courses.

Lessons learned

Be wary of a coach who does not listen to you

Listening is essential when dealing with a coach. You want a coach who listens and asks questions, not just spewing off a lot of jargon or repeating things that someone could easily find in an online magazine.

Trust your gut

Don’t buy something if you don’t have a good feeling. Don’t let the shiny object effect or the fear of missing out lead to purchase something that you know deep down in your gut is unnecessary. Take time to discern what feels good to you, what feels right, and what you really need.

When the student is ready, the teacher appears

Sometimes you may buy a course, and it is not what you need at the time. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Just because you don’t need the course now does not mean you won’t need it at some other point in your life, career, or business. Most courses have lifetime access, and you can go back and continue when you want.

Take ownership of the course you buy

If you’re working with a coach, don’t be afraid to speak up and ask for what you need. Take a little bit of ownership and recognize that you can change some things and move through them. You can even put the course aside if it doesn’t resonate with you right now. You can choose to get back to it later.

Andrew’s takeaways

If you want to help someone ask questions

When you want to help someone in a business as a coach or an advisor, ask more questions and really listen. This is what will help people go forward.

Actionable advice

Take your time, don’t rush your decisions. Think about it and see how you feel. Don’t be afraid first to do some research and ask around. And if you make a wrong choice, don’t feel like you made some massive mistake. We can all learn from these situations.

No. 1 goal for the next 12 months

Marie’s number one goal for the next 12 months is to continue working with her clients and her business and help as many people as possible. She also plans to launch her third book by December.

Parting words

“Always remember that all learnings help build your confidence, and there are no mistakes. It will all work out.”