S2E1: Getting Our Lives Together, Crucifying Desires, Being Called Up + A Life of Flourishing

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Oct 7, 2025

Dive into the journey of fatherhood and spiritual maturity as hosts explore what it means to get our lives together. They tackle the transition from boyhood to manhood, emphasizing responsibility and integrity. Through the lens of Jesus' teachings, they discuss the need for surrender and the dangers of unchecked desires. The Family Age Chart offers insights into life's fleeting seasons and the call to navigate transitions. With personal stories of calling and discipline, they lay the groundwork for a flourishing life rooted in authenticity and growth.

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ADVICE

Use A Three-Movement Life Map

Do map your life into stages: getting your life together, giving your life away, and giving your death away.
Use that map to name your season and orient decisions toward long-term discipleship.

INSIGHT

Age Chart Reveals Time Urgency

Zoom out with an age chart to see how brief each parenting season really is.
That vision creates urgency to steward the present decades well rather than panic or nostalgia.

INSIGHT

Timing Of Life Crises Has Shifted

The decade of 20–35 is often about getting your life together, then you shift toward giving it away.
Many men face crises earlier now as they transition from self-building to sacrificial giving.

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Season 2 of the Intentional Fatherhood Podcast kicks off with a new framework for understanding the journey of spiritual maturity, specifically through the lens of fatherhood. This season, we’re exploring the three great movements of the spiritual life: getting our lives together, giving our lives away, and giving our deaths away.

In this first episode, we dig into that first movement: getting our lives together. What does it really mean to move from boyhood to manhood — to take on responsibility, lead with integrity, and build a family — especially when no one ever showed us how? Many of us find ourselves in jobs, routines or situations we don’t love, wondering if this is what life was meant to be. We talk honestly about that struggle and the grace needed when we haven’t been guided through it by a father or mentor.

We also explore how following Jesus leads to a fuller, richer life — one that begins with death to self. Despite what culture tells us, the cross reminds us that life isn’t about achievement or comfort, but about surrender, calling us to accept the limitation of our own desires.

Using the Family Age Chart tool, we reflect on how each season of life is brief and full of transition — and how those transitions often come with both crisis and calling.

This episode lays the foundation for the season ahead: learning how God shapes us through the movements of life, beginning with the hard but holy work of getting our lives together.

Intentional Fatherhood Retreat: February 19-21, 2026 in Costa Mesa, CA

Family Age Chart PDF Download

Scripture Mentioned: Proverbs 29:18, Proverbs 24:16, Matthew 16:24, Galatians 5:19, Colossians 3:5 + Luke 9:23

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