Exploring the impact of porn discovery, the conversation reveals how trust can be shattered in a marriage. The hosts emphasize the importance of rebuilding sexual intimacy and the need for counseling. They discuss the dangers of withdrawing sex and its effects on long-term stability. Biblical insights on mutual sexual responsibilities are shared, alongside practical steps for recovery. Listeners are encouraged to seek professional help and to approach healing with patience and understanding.
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Betrayal Trauma Shakes Marital Foundations
Disclosure of porn use often triggers betrayal trauma and shakes the foundation of marriage.
Wives commonly feel deceived and question the identity and trustworthiness of their husband.
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Losing The Keys As A Turning Point
After disclosure many men lose household and bedroom access which triggers recovery for some.
Vern describes this loss of 'keys' as a common consequence that starts a feedback loop toward change.
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Get Trained Support And Watch Actions
Seek professional support beyond friends or family to process betrayal trauma.
Only believe change through sustained actions, not promises: 'Only believe what he does.'
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Women Please Note: This episode is not mean to shame you if you are struggling with the after effects of the disclosure of your husbands porn use. It is meant to encourage you not remain stuck in your pain, anger and grief and get the help to see your marriage restored to the dream you had when you walked down the aisle. If you are a woman looking for a great organization to help you process the reality of being married to a recovering porn user - check out https://apsats.org/
Men Please Note: This podcast is not mean to be used to used as a lever to get your "wife in line". It is meant to encourage to do the hard work necessary to woo or "tempt" her to trust you once again enough to restore intimacy to your relationship!
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If you want to reach out to Vern with recovery questions, to have a free zoom call with him or find out how you can move towards your porn recovery goals then reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
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