Explore the nuances of intensive parenting and uncover the difference between 'hard' and 'too hard' for both parents and kids. Delve into the emotional toll on parents and learn strategies for offering support while establishing vital boundaries. Gain insights into fostering children's success in educational settings through co-regulation and understanding their needs. Discover the importance of self-compassion and connection in parenting, especially when navigating the challenges of parenting sensitive children.
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Recognize Your Limits
Assess if parenting demands are hard or too hard for you.
It's okay to decide you can't hold a boundary or provide intense co-regulation sometimes.
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Owl Brain Decisions
Make conscious, owl-brain decisions about what's too hard, not reactive ones.
This is healthier for your nervous system and helps model regulation for your child.
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Adjust Expectations
If something is too hard for you, adjust expectations for your child.
Don't expect them to do tasks they need your support for if you aren't providing it.
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We talk a lot about hard very too hard for your kids (thanks Amanda Diekman for that hard vs. too hard language!).
But have you considered applying that concept to yourself?
This is intensive parenting! Far beyond when parenting is supposed to get less intensive, you’re still giving super-hero level scaffolding, supervision and co-regulation - and it’s a LOT!
In this episode, you’ll learn
How to assess for when it’s just TOO hard- for YOU!
The importance of making an owl-brain decision about things being too hard (or not)
Ways to increase support at the same time as you lower demands for yourself
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Enabling vs. Low-Demand podcast
Amanda Diekman - Low Demand Parenting on Instagram
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