228. Parenting with Purpose with Bryan Post (12x author, child behavior and adoption expert) 💌

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Mar 18, 2025

In this engaging discussion, Bryan Post, a leading expert in child behavior and adoption, shares his powerful insights on parenting with purpose. He emphasizes the importance of love in building family bonds and transforming emotional challenges. Bryan offers practical strategies for helping children feel safe and supported, especially in tough situations like sibling rivalry or aggression. He also discusses shifting from fear-based to love-based parenting, helping parents navigate their own emotional responses to foster healthier family dynamics.

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ANECDOTE

Post's Adoption Story

Bryan Post's biological mother gave him up for adoption after discovering his father had impregnated her cousin.
Years later, Post reconnected with his birth mother, who revealed she'd prayed for him nightly.

INSIGHT

Impact of Trauma on Parenting

Post grew up in a tumultuous environment with adopted parents who struggled with their own unresolved trauma.
This, combined with traditional parenting styles, created a stressful childhood for him and his sister.

ADVICE

Effective Discipline

Understand that discipline means to teach, not punish.
Recognize that stress hinders effective teaching, so calm yourself before addressing a child's misbehavior.

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