Joe Hudson, a coach and teacher, discusses the emotional complexities of money. They explore childhood imprints, fears and insecurities, and the impact of emotions on financial decisions. The conversation emphasizes the need for balance between intellect and emotion in finance and entrepreneurship. They also reflect on personal growth through self-improvement and business.
Our emotional connection to money can impact decision-making, relationships, and overall well-being.
The projection of emotions onto money can result in individuals seeking external validation and permission, rather than finding alignment in their own desires and values.
By embracing and feeling emotions rather than avoiding them, individuals can navigate their relationship with money and other aspects of life more effectively.
Deep dives
The Emotional Relationship with Money
The podcast episode explores the emotional aspect of money and the various ways in which individuals interact with it. It highlights the deep emotional connection people often have with money, whether it be through projections of authority issues or perceptions of self-worth. The podcast guest shares personal experiences of feeling the need to earn belonging and the pursuit of his father's love through money. The emotional connection to money can impact decision-making, relationships, and overall well-being.
Projection and Attraction to Similar Patterns
The episode delves into how individuals often attract and are attracted to situations and people that reinforce their emotional patterns and beliefs about money. The guest provides examples of attracting bosses who reinforce the belief of having to earn one's place, creating a system that perpetuates the pattern. This projection of emotions onto money can result in individuals seeking external validation and permission, rather than finding alignment in their own desires and values.
Integrating Intellectual, Emotional, and Nervous System Work
The podcast emphasizes the importance of integrating intellectual, emotional, and nervous system work for personal transformation. The guest highlights that relying solely on intellectualizing emotions can slow down the transformation process. Instead, being in touch with the emotional and somatic experience can provide greater clarity and optionality in decision-making. By embracing and feeling emotions rather than avoiding them, individuals can navigate their relationship with money and other aspects of life more effectively.
Recognizing Emotional Patterns and Behavioral Attractions
In this podcast episode, the speaker discusses how emotional patterns and behavioral attractions play a significant role in relationships. They explain that certain individuals tend to attract or be attracted to specific patterns of behavior or attitudes. For example, someone who believes that their acceptance or love is conditional is more likely to attract or be drawn to people who give conditional love. The speaker also mentions that when it comes to career choices, individuals who have a need to prove themselves often seek out highly accountable and competitive environments, such as investment banking or consulting firms. Overall, the podcast explores the idea that our emotional patterns and attractions shape our relationships and career choices.
Embracing Emotional States and Experimenting with Behavioral Changes
The podcast episode highlights the importance of embracing and understanding our emotional experiences, even the ones we tend to avoid. This includes recognizing and investigating feelings of fear, irrelevance, or not belonging. The speaker suggests that by opening ourselves up to these emotions and exploring them, we gain valuable insights and information about ourselves. They also emphasize the significance of experimenting with behavioral changes and practices beyond traditional therapy. By trying new approaches, whether it's changing spending habits or visualizing different financial outcomes, individuals have the opportunity to discover new perspectives and transform their relationship with money, success, and self-worth.
We worry about money. When there’s not enough, we’re scared of the catastrophe. When there’s too much — there’s always someone with more. Could it be that our rational brains can’t fully grasp the emotional complexities of money? What if worry, anxiety and comparison are just representations of our unmet desires? [Episode 27]
Joe Hudson is a coach, teacher and facilitator at the Art of Acccomplishment.