Tips from an ADHD Coach: Figuring it out for ourselves
Jan 7, 2025
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Individuals with ADHD excel at problem-solving for others, but often struggle with their own challenges. The emotional dysregulation they experience can make it difficult to advocate for themselves. In this discussion, the complexities of transitioning from school to work are revealed, along with the irony of ADHD coaches facing their own organizational hurdles. Tips focus on fostering self-compassion and adapting personal goals for better emotional processing and growth, empowering listeners to navigate their unique journeys.
Individuals with ADHD are skilled at problem-solving for others but face unique barriers when trying to address their own challenges.
Incorporating flexibility checkpoints and supportive coaching can empower ADHD individuals to navigate their personal struggles with greater self-compassion.
Deep dives
The Challenge of Self-Advocacy for ADHD Individuals
Many individuals with ADHD excel at solving problems for others but often struggle to apply the same skills to their own challenges. A personal account highlights the difficulty of advocating for oneself in a workplace setting, despite experiencing success in training others on self-advocacy. Factors like anxiety and emotional distress can complicate the ability to articulate one’s own needs, leading to feelings of confusion and depression. This disconnect emphasizes the unique barriers that people with ADHD face in recognizing and addressing their personal struggles.
Understanding Executive Dysfunction and Emotional Dysregulation
Executive dysfunction often prevents individuals with ADHD from adjusting their plans and responding flexibly to obstacles. This inflexibility can lead to significant emotional distress when unforeseen challenges arise, making it difficult to navigate problem-solving without feeling overwhelmed. Emotional dysregulation exacerbates this by intensifying negative feelings, resulting in avoidance rather than proactive solutions. The interplay of these factors highlights why many can brainstorm effectively for others but freeze when facing their own issues.
Strategies for Empowering Self-Problem Solving
Engaging in supportive coaching conversations can help individuals with ADHD clarify their thoughts and work through challenges in a structured environment. By encouraging reflection rather than directly providing solutions, supportive partners can help individuals identify their own paths forward. Additionally, incorporating flexibility checkpoints within plans allows individuals to revise their strategies as needed, reducing the anxiety linked to switching gears. Practicing self-compassion and acknowledging that making mistakes is part of growth can empower ADHD individuals to solve their own problems while maintaining their roles as experts.
People with ADHD can be out-of-the-box thinkers and great problem solvers. A lot of people may actually go to them for help solving difficult problems. But, what happens when they have to solve their own challenges?
This week on Tips from an ADHD Coach, Jaye unpacks why it can be harder for people with ADHD to help themselves with their own challenges. Listen for some tips that can help.
Have a challenge you’d like Jaye to talk about in an episode? Email or send a voice memo to us at adhdcoachtips@understood.org
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
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