On Purpose with Jay Shetty How to Move On When You Still Miss Your Ex (4 Hard Truths That Will FINALLY Set You Free)
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Nov 14, 2025 Navigating the aftermath of a breakup can be challenging. Jay discusses the importance of recognizing that we often miss the feelings associated with love, rather than the person themselves. He explains how breakups can feel like a withdrawal due to our brain chemistry and the merging of identities. By debunking common myths, sharing practical steps to avoid romanticizing the past, and suggesting ways to rebuild life, Jay emphasizes that healing is about rediscovering yourself and transforming pain into purpose.
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Why Breakups Hurt Deeply
- Breakups hurt because brains are wired for connection and attachment chemicals create withdrawal symptoms.
- Identity merges in relationships, so losing a partner can feel like losing your reflection.
You Miss A Future, Not Just A Person
- You often miss who you thought you'd be with them, not the person themselves.
- Memories trigger longing because they reflect a lost version of your future and identity.
Reclaim The Feeling Within You
- Find ways to recreate the feeling of being seen, wanted, and chosen from within yourself and through community.
- Seek connection with friends and activities that give you that same sense instead of chasing the person.