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219. How to Be a Better Person, By NOT Being "Nice". Dr. Aziz Gazipura

Feb 27, 2020
Dr. Aziz Gazipura, author of 'Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty...' discusses the negative consequences of being too 'nice.' He emphasizes the importance of authenticity, setting boundaries, and owning one's shadow. The podcast explores the impact of over responsibility, the physical manifestation of suppressed emotions, and the power of setting clear boundaries for a better life.
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Quick takeaways

  • Being not nice is not being cruel, it's being true, expressing what you want with directness, firmness, and kindness.
  • To be a good person, it is not necessary to be excessively nice, as constantly pleasing others neglects our own needs, values, and desires.

Deep dives

Being authentic and not cruel

Being not nice is not being cruel. It's being true. Saying no or expressing what you want is not cruel as long as it's done with directness, firmness, and kindness. Cruelty involves character attacks and unnecessary negativity, which doesn't contribute to healthy relationships. Being authentic and honest, even if it initially upsets someone, can lead to positive outcomes.

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