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Demand Avoidance As Autistic Response
- Orion Kelly explains demand avoidance as an autism-linked urge to resist demands that can trigger overload, meltdowns, and burnout.
- He frames it as a predictable autistic response tied to need for routine and sameness rather than willful misbehavior.
Give Advanced Notice
- Give advanced notice of changes so the autistic person gains predictability and processing time.
- Use that heads-up to let them plan and feel more in control, reducing anxiety-triggered avoidance.
Stay Calm, Be The Rock
- Stay calm and avoid mirroring the autistic person's escalating energy when a demand triggers panic.
- Your calm presence helps them de-escalate faster and prevents escalation into meltdown.