Marriage Kids and Money: Personal Finance for Families Why Men Drift in their Roles as Husbands and Fathers (And What You Can Do To Stop It) | Larry Hagner
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Jan 14, 2026 Larry Hagner, founder of The Dad Edge and author of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood, dives deep into the 'drift' that men can experience in their roles as husbands and fathers. He shares personal stories that highlight the risks of complacency, including potential struggles like divorce and depression. Larry emphasizes practical strategies, such as the importance of communication skills and establishing transition rituals to foster connection. He encourages men to seek support from communities for accountability and growth in their family lives.
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The Drift Explains Quiet Decline
- The 'drift' is a slow, sinister slide into complacency where men accept a life of low fulfillment.
- Larry says interrupting that drift is essential to avoid stagnation and deeper harm.
Lance: A Portrait Of Drift
- Larry describes 'Lance', a 38-year-old stuck in a job he dislikes with a stagnant marriage and disconnected kids.
- Lance's gradual acceptance of 'that's life' illustrates how social norms and friends normalize drift.
Train Marriage Like Any Skill
- Change your perspective: treat marriage and parenting as skills that can be learned and trained.
- Learn connection, communication, and intimacy skills instead of 'winging' marriage.
