The Customer Success Playbook Customer Success Playbook S3 E46 - Mary Schmid - Listen To Connect not Correct
In this high-impact episode of the Customer Success Playbook, hosts Kevin Metzger and Roman Trebon welcome Mary Schmid, MBA, a communication and leadership expert with a passion for rewiring how we listen. Mary reveals how to shift from surface-level exchanges to trust-building dialogues by embracing her "Conversational Edge" framework. Rather than defaulting to advice-giving, Mary urges professionals to pause and lean into connection-first listening. With a foundation in neuroscience, she explains how we unconsciously drop out of conversations every 12 to 18 seconds—and how to stay tuned in. If you think you’re a good listener, this episode might surprise you.
Detailed Analysis: This episode flips the script on what it means to be a "trusted advisor." Mary Schmid argues that client relationships are often eroded by a focus on proving expertise instead of demonstrating care. Using brain science as a guide, she introduces the idea that effective listening triggers the brain’s trust response. Listeners are walked through a conversational sequence that begins with understanding the situation, moves into exploring the client’s thoughts and emotions, and culminates in assessing the impact. The goal? Helping clients feel heard, not herded.
Mary deftly explains how traditional expertise-driven dialogue creates power imbalances, pushing clients into defensive, disengaged states. In contrast, her approach taps into the oxytocin-powered trust circuit by creating psychological safety. The episode offers practical examples and humorous insights—including Kevin getting called out for zoning out every few seconds (we’re looking at you, Kevin).
For business leaders and customer success professionals, Mary provides a vital reminder: real influence stems from emotional connection, not intellectual superiority. When you guide a client into collaborative discovery, rather than corner them with solutions, you spark engagement and build lasting loyalty.
Her parting wisdom? Respect begins with listening to connect, not correct.
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