Why You Should Spend Less Time With Your Kids [Interview with Lenore Skenazy]

We’ve been told that “good” parents never take their eyes off their kids — but what if that’s the very thing making childhood (and parenting) harder?

In this fascinating chat, Dr Justin Coulson sits down with Lenore Skenazy — New York Times bestselling author of Free Range Kids and co-founder of Let Grow — whose viral act of letting her 9-year-old ride the NYC subway alone sparked a global movement.

Fresh from her TED Talk, Why You Should Spend Less Time With Your Kids, Lenore dismantles the “terrible lie” that children can’t handle life on their own — and reveals why the best learning, confidence, and resilience often happen when parents step back.

KEY POINTS

• The fear-driven parenting trap — and how media and culture made “unsupervised” a dirty word.
• The myth of “better safe than sorry” and why it’s hurting our kids.
• How independence builds competence (and true confidence).
• What happens in a child’s brain when they solve problems without adult help.
• The staggering truth about “stranger danger” and why it’s wildly overblown.
• How to make it normal again to just open the door and let kids play.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Independence leads to competence — and competence leads to confidence.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• Lenore Skenazy’s TED Talk: Why You Should Spend Less Time With Your Kids
• Free Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy— New York Times bestseller
• Let Grow nonprofit: letgrow.org
• Range by David Epstein

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

1. Open the door. Let your child play or walk somewhere safely on their own.
2. Resist the rescue. When your child faces a small problem, pause before stepping in.
3. Swap “be safe” for “trust yourself.” Let your language build courage, not fear.
4. Talk about freedom. Ask your kids what independence means to them — and listen.

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