Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Esther Calling - One Relationship. Two Truths.
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Nov 17, 2025 A heart-wrenching journey unfolds as a caller grapples with love and betrayal following a deceitful polyamorous relationship. Esther Perel navigates the complexities of reconciling genuine feelings with the pain of dishonesty. She encourages the caller to embrace both grief and rage, while exploring how compassion can honor cherished memories. Together, they discuss the transformative power of holding conflicting emotions and physicalizing the juxtaposition of disgust and delight. Ultimately, it’s about finding healing through acceptance.
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Love And Betrayal Collide
- The caller describes a two-year polyamorous relationship that felt uniquely alive and loving.
- That same relationship collapsed when she learned he had been secretly cheating and lying about being poly.
Meeting The Unknowing Partner
- The caller recounts meeting the girlfriend who had been unaware of her role and spending four hours answering questions.
- She revealed their two-year history, vacations, and the depth of the relationship to the shocked partner.
Multiple Truths Can Coexist
- Esther highlights that there may be multiple coexisting truths: the deception and the real feelings.
- She asks whether the emotions experienced were genuine or also part of the deceit.