Ep. #78: What If I'm NOT Gay? What If I'm Wrong?

In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin explores two commonly asked questions that most of us ask ourselves at ‘some’ point along our coming out late journey’s - and those are: “What if I’m NOT Really Gay?” “And, What If I’m Wrong? We want assurances and certainty in life that we aren’t going to blow-up-the-family, be disowned by our parents and/or siblings, be fired at work or be ghosted by our children IF, by some chance, we are wrong about our sexuality.

In this episode you will … 

• NOTHING is going to give you a truer, more deeper understanding of you, yourself and your sexuality than YOU.
• all of the answers you will ever need to guide you, direct you, and fulfill your every need and desire reside right inside you.
• Living Two Lives: Married to A Man, But In Love with A Woman, Written by, Joanne Fleisher, (2005, 2012).
• A partial description of what to expect in Joanne Fleisher’s book, Living Two Lives: “In 1979, Joanne Fleisher was leading the life of a typical suburban wife and mother. That is, until she fell in love with a female friend and her world was turned upside down. Living Two Lives is a guide for women grappling with the difficult process of coming out while being married to a man.
• Switching Teams, Written by, Dawn Elizabeth Waters, (2019).
• Relatable excerpts from the book, Switching Teams, describing Dawn’s realistic rocky road to coming out late: (a) “Dawn's comfortable existence…disappeared as soon as she came out as a lesbian”, (b) “...it would be one of the most difficult experiences of her life, it would also be one of the most liberating…”, (c) “...at long last…[she] was comfortable in her own skin, even as she realized everyone around her was thrown into chaos…”, (d) “even as she realized everyone around her was thrown into chaos…”.
• What is “The Masterdoc”? “The Lesbian Masterdoc” is actually a common nickname for the original document titled, “Am I A Lesbian”, written by Angeli Luz, a life coach and reiki healing specialist. The 30-page piece first appeared as a Google Doc on her Tumblr page back in 2018, and then later showed up as a PDF in various sub-Reddit’s and since, swept through Tik Tok over the last 2-3 years.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

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ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:

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