18Forty Podcast David Bashevkin: My Dating Story [Re-Release]
Aug 12, 2025
Dive into an enlightening discussion on the challenges of modern dating. Explore how personal experiences shape our understanding of commitment while navigating faith and emotional health. Gain insights on balancing religious identity with romantic aspirations. Discover the transformative nature of solitude and the evolving definition of home. Reflect on growth and connection in relationships, and learn why true commitment is essential for meaningful love.
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Choice Makes Commitment Harder
- Modern optionality increases choice but makes commitment harder because endless alternatives undermine settling.
- David links dating struggles to a broader difficulty committing to work, community, and self in modern life.
Lonely Memoir From 2008
- In 2008 David wrote a raw personal memoir about feeling lonely, ashamed, and spiritually distant while single.
- He pleaded with God to 'turn on the light' and described wanting a new nisayon (test) to replace his prolonged suffering.
Pesach Seder Spent Alone
- David described living alone in Washington Heights and feeling like his whole life was a Sukkah: impermanent and unable to connect to holidays.
- He recounted spending a Pesach seder alone and later writing about solitude as formative, not only painful.
