In this podcast, they discuss how growing up with trauma can lead to feeling disconnected in a loving relationship. They explore the challenges of connecting, pacing, attachment, and grieving in relationships for individuals with CPTSD.
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Pacing in relationships is crucial for trauma survivors to avoid premature commitments and maintain healthy boundaries.
Building trust in relationships involves shared experiences and interactions, fostering a deeper connection and attraction towards partners.
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Importance of pacing in relationships
Pacing in relationships, especially for those with trauma backgrounds, is crucial to avoiding premature commitments and maintaining healthy boundaries. By taking things slowly and not rushing into intense emotional or physical closeness, individuals can allow trust to develop naturally over time. This approach can help in managing expectations and avoiding potential feelings of detachment or overwhelm, leading to more sustainable and fulfilling connections.
Building trust through shared experiences
Building trust in relationships involves going through a series of shared experiences and interactions, from everyday activities to handling challenges together. This process allows for the gradual development of trust grounded in reality, rather than relying on a single conversation or event. By investing time and effort into these experiences, individuals can foster a deeper sense of connection and attraction towards their partner.
Embracing the evolving nature of feelings
Allowing feelings to evolve naturally in a relationship is essential for understanding one's true emotional responses and compatibility with a partner. It is normal to experience fluctuations in emotional intensity, including moments of dissociation or detachment, particularly for individuals with complex trauma backgrounds. Embracing this evolving nature of emotions can lead to a more authentic and sustainable bond based on mutual understanding and gradual growth.
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Navigating Love with Trauma: Overcoming Feelings of Disconnect in a Healthy Relationship
Imagine finally finding someone who loves you as you are. And after so many painful attempts to find love, THIS person is right by your side and wants to be with you. So what is it in people who grew up with trauma, that the presence of someone THIS good, can shut you down, and make things feel "not real"? In this video I respond to a letter from a woman with CPTSD who finds herself feeling more numb and detached, the more she is loved.