Raising Boys & Girls

Episode 331: When to Speak, When to Listen with Enneagram 8’s, Amy Fenton & Brian Camp

Dec 4, 2025
Amy Fenton, a single mom and Enneagram 8, and Brian Camp, also a parent of three young adults, share their unique parenting journeys. They discuss the strengths of decisiveness and fierce advocacy, as well as the challenges of quick overreactions and the need to control. Through candid stories, they reveal practical tools like pausing and asking for a do-over to foster communication. Their insights highlight the balance of being strong yet nurturing, aiming for their kids to feel supported and championed.
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ANECDOTE

Always Cast As Annie

  • Amy described organizing childhood plays so she always got the lead role, showing early control and leadership.
  • She remembers purposefully structuring situations to ensure she stayed 'Annie' and in charge.
ANECDOTE

Walking Out To Prove A Point

  • Brian walked out of a high-school class after a teacher refused to hold class outside, asserting his autonomy publicly.
  • He used that moment to show early fierce independence and willingness to act on principle.
INSIGHT

Decisiveness Creates Security

  • Enneagram 8 parents create deep safety through decisive boundaries and fierce advocacy for their kids.
  • David points out that an eight's decisiveness spares them wasted energy on worrying about others' approval.
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