Dealing with Pornography in Your Marriage with Layton & Chelsea Boeve

Oct 30, 2024

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In this episode, we welcome Chelsea and Layton Boeve, co-hosts of The Liberator Podcast, to share their story of healing, growth, and resilience as a couple navigating addiction recovery. Together with our hosts, they discuss the unique impact of addiction on relationships, how gender influences healing journeys, and the importance of honest communication, faith, and mutual support. This heartfelt conversation offers insight and hope for couples facing similar challenges, providing listeners with practical advice and inspiring encouragement from those who have walked this difficult path.

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Introduction to Chelsea and Layton’s Story
- Chelsea and Layton discuss the inception of The Liberator Podcast and its mission to support others experiencing relationship struggles due to addiction. Chelsea shares her initial feelings of isolation and the need for understanding and support, which led her to seek out resources and eventually share her experiences publicly.
The Value of a Balanced Perspective
- The couple reflects on the unique value of having both male and female voices on their podcast. They receive feedback primarily from women, though they acknowledge their male audience as well. Layton shares that hearing perspectives from both genders provides couples with a more well-rounded understanding of how addiction impacts relationships, allowing for greater empathy and connection.
Resources and Key Influences
- Chelsea credits the support of trusted friends and mentors as essential to her healing journey. She mentions Bob and Dana Gresh’s book as a powerful resource for its compassionate and well-rounded perspective on addiction, even including scientific insights like brain scans, which helped normalize her experience. She also mentions author and speaker Felicia Mason Heimer, whose discussions on identity and theology have influenced her growth and understanding from a woman’s perspective.
Personal Healing and Faith
- Chelsea explains that her healing involved a deeper understanding of her faith and identity, focusing on how God views her. She describes a powerful spiritual experience where she felt God’s love and acceptance, which helped restore her sense of self-worth. This moment was a turning point for her, encouraging listeners to find similar comfort and confidence in their spiritual identity.
Practical Steps in Recovery and Growth
- Layton shares that while they didn’t attend traditional counseling as a couple, both he and Chelsea worked with trusted mentors and friends. For him, journaling, taking a “fearless self-inventory,” and focusing on small, consistent steps were crucial in rebuilding his life and sense of accountability. He encourages those struggling with addiction to focus on immediate, manageable goals instead of feeling overwhelmed by the long-term journey.
Advice for Listeners
- Chelsea and Layton close with personal advice for those facing similar challenges. Chelsea encourages listeners to seek God’s view of them, sharing a vision she received of walking down the aisle with Layton, symbolizing how cherished she is. Layton

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