The Gentleman's Take #18 - Are you a gentledork? - Tanner Guzy
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Sep 14, 2025 Join Tanner Guzy, a men's style consultant and single dad of seven, as he explores the deep connections between personal style, confidence, and attraction. He candidly discusses the struggles men face with modern dating, especially post-divorce, while highlighting the importance of authenticity in personal expression. Expect insights on how to compliment women without being creepy, the role of vulnerability in masculinity, and balancing family life with professional pursuits. Tanner advocates for genuine connections beyond dating apps, making this an engaging listen for all.
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Style Reveals Identity Gaps
- Many men who dress well still feel a dissonance between their outward appearance and their inner identity.
- Tanner Guzy says style must create congruence rather than mask deeper deficits.
The 'Gentledork' Costume Phase
- Tanner describes his 'gentledork' phase where he over-encoded formality to compensate for other undeveloped masculine traits.
- He later realized the suit was a costume that highlighted the gap rather than fixing it.
Build Physicality, Not Just Outfits
- If you rely on clothing alone, start developing physical capability by going to the gym.
- Even better, train a combat sport to build real presence and reduce reliance on costume.
