The Whole Therapist Book Series: The Development of a Therapist. Chapter 4, Part 2
Sep 13, 2022
Abby and Kellee explore deep family narratives and their impact on personal growth. They discuss the powerful question posed by Cozolino about success and family loyalties. Uncovering hidden barriers, they emphasize the importance of safety in therapy and how early experiences shape our responses. The hosts highlight the dynamics of grief tied to family secrets and advocate for a compassionate approach to externalizing loyalties. They also delve into the connections between transgenerational stories and biological influences, all while encouraging listeners to embrace deeper explorations.
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Ask Deep Questions Only With Rapport
- Do build strong rapport and gather family-of-origin context before asking deep loyalty questions.
- Sit with body sensations and imagery after the question to uncover hidden loyalties.
Invisible Loyalties Preserve Connection
- Invisible loyalties keep people connected to family patterns even when those patterns limit dreams.
- These loyalties operate to preserve connection and survival across generations.
Loyalties Create Everyday Dissociation
- Family loyalties often create everyday dissociation where different neural streams hold conflicting roles.
- Protective or caretaker parts can operate separately from longing or vulnerable parts.
