A 24/7 Dominant answers your questions about D/s dynamics and deep intimacy

Mar 17, 2025

Explore the intriguing world of dominant-submissive dynamics as listeners submit their burning questions. Discover insights on starting as a new Dom and the challenges of switching roles. Hear about navigating attachment styles and facing backlash in the kink scene. The conversation balances strictness with love, emphasizing the need for reassurance and open communication. Learn how mental health impacts dynamics and the unique elements of polyamorous lifestyles. A candid dive into vulnerability and the importance of community support makes for an engaging listen.

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ADVICE

New Dom Leadership Advice

As a new dom, take ownership of what you want the dynamic to be for yourself.\n- Avoid just trying to fulfill your submissive's desires; lead your unique dynamic confidently.

INSIGHT

True Submission Means Freedom

Submission is about freedom through trust and surrender, not limitation.\n- Building safety with your partner means being safe with them, not just safe from them.

ADVICE

Grow Together, Don't Idealize

You don't find a man like Andrew; you grow together with a partner willing to face insecurities.\n- Speak up openly for your feelings to help him grow and build real intimacy.

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In this episode of the Dom Sub Devotion podcast, I answer a series of listener-submitted questions about dominant-submissive (DS) relationships. Topics include:

02:22 Starting as a New Dom

05:44 Favorite Things About Dawn

08:46 Finding a Partner Like Andrew

12:48 Switching from Leadership to Submission

16:22 Dealing with Attachment Styles

21:19 Navigating the Kink Scene

25:39 Handling Backlash

28:24 Balancing Strictness and Love as a Dom

31:49 Reassurance in a DS Relationship

37:59 Desiring a Polyamorous Lifestyle

40:29 DS Relationship After Sexual Assault

45:53 Dominant vs. Master-Slave Dynamics

48:07 Showing Off Your Submissive

51:03 Leading Without Ego

54:05 Supporting a Dom with Mental Health Issues

58:12 Conclusion and Call to Action

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