Pink Kink Why Breaking Your Submissive is Wrong - Episode 219
May 16, 2025
The hosts passionately discuss the harmful idea of 'breaking' submissives in BDSM. They emphasize the importance of empowerment and healthy dynamics in kink relationships. Personal stories highlight the dangers of coercion and disrespecting boundaries. With humor and insight, they share what true dominance should look like: built on trust and mutual respect. The conversation also touches on brat dynamics and recognizing red flags, advocating for informed consent and healthy communication in all power exchange relationships.
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Origins of "Breaking" Submissives
- The idea of "breaking" submissives comes from horse training and military conditioning to enforce obedience by erasing individuality.
- This approach is harmful in kink because it treats submissives as projects and destroys their unique identity.
Submission Is Empowered Choice
- Submission in kink is about choice, autonomy, and empowerment, not loss of control or being "broken".
- Ethical BDSM must respect informed, enthusiastic, ongoing consent and reject manipulation.
Healthy Dominance Builds Trust
- Good dominance involves leadership that builds up submissives rather than destroying their agency.
- Dominants should foster respect, trust, and growth, not fear or blind obedience.