Overcoming the Fear of Intimacy: Avoidant attachment, Emotional Safety & Real Connection w/ Paul Gilmartin

Why Avoidants Pull Away – How childhood trauma wires your nervous system to see closeness as unsafe, even when you crave connection.

Overcoming the Fear of Intimacy – Paul’s path from avoiding commitment to building a secure, deeply connected relationship.

Dating with Boundaries – What happens when you create a plan for slow, intentional dating… and what it means when you throw it out the window.

Breaking Old Attraction Patterns – How Paul stopped chasing red flags and learned to spot emotional availability.

Healthy Love Without Losing Yourself – Building a relationship where both partners have full, independent lives and connection feels like “the ice cream on top.”

When Vulnerability Changes Everything – The surprising power of disclosing your story early on, and why the right person won’t run.