#40: Mid-Recovery - Making the difference between surviving and thriving

In this episode - our special guest is struggling at the beginning of the episode.  It doesn’t last long, thank goodness.  Hang tight during the first couple of minutes.  As for what we talk about:  it’s all about mid recovery.  Such an incredibly important part of the process - it will determine whether you survive versus whether you thrive. 

 

We start by clarifying the difference between early-recovery and mid-recovery - here is a bit of an outline:

 

Early Recovery includes:

- Formal Disclosure

- Boundary Setting

- Grieving

- Anger

- Managing Triggers

- Family of Origin work for him

- Managing Shame

- Insight into his triggers

 

Mid Recovery includes:

- Grief cycles are shorter

- Triggers can feel worse

- Check-Ins not as formal

- Him getting a handle on his Acting In

- Continuing his Family of Origin work

- Experiencing the fruits of forgiveness

- Her needing to see him pressing in - this isn’t the time to let off the gas

- For her - increased weariness oftentimes occurs (process fatigue)

- Sobriety isn’t in question nor is it the focal point

 

I loved it when Jason said early recovery is oftentimes defined by the don’ts while mid recovery is defined by the do’s. Another great quote:  "when someone has become friends with the work, you can tell they are living in recovery.”  We land the plane with talking about some of the specific things that you can be doing in mid recovery.  Truly there is a lot of richness in this part of the process.

 

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