A to Z Quick Tok 43 | Would you rather have a friend who is a great listener or a friend who always gives excellent advice?

In this episode of The A to Z English Podcast, Jack is joined by May, Layla, and Hendrick as they discuss the following Would you rather? question:

Would you rather have a friend who is a great listener or a friend who always gives excellent advice?

Transcript:

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Jack

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Jack

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Jack

Welcome to the.

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Jack

A-Z English podcast My name is Jack and I'm one of the hosts of the podcast and I'm here with three of my good friends. May Leila and Hendrick. They are helping me out today.

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Jack

And sitting in for social and we're going to do something a little bit different today, guys, this today I'm going to hand the controls over to May and she is going to surprise me, Layla and Hendrick with a would you rather question. So this is I have no idea what it is. I don't know what it is.

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Jack

It's a total surprise, so as you.

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Jack

Listen, I'm. I'm. I'm.

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Jack

Learning just as you guys hear it, along with me. So may you have control. What do you got for us?

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May

Alright. Thank you, Jed. Uh, today I have.

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May

With your other questions for everyone, and the question is.

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May

Would you rather have a?

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May

Friend who is a great listener.

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May

Or would you like to have a friend who always provide excellent advice?

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May

So what do you guys?

00:01:45

Jack

OK. So let me just make sure I've got this. Uh, would you rather have a friend who's a great listener or a friend who always gives excellent advice?

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May

Yes, Jack, you're right.

00:01:58

Jack

OK, but you can't have both. You can't have both.

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May

Unfortunately not. That can only choose one.

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Jack

So so my friend gives great advice, but he never listens to me or he listens to me really well, but he gives me terrible advice.

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May

Or maybe he doesn't advise you as.

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Jack

Or he doesn't give me any advice.

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Jack

He's like, what do you think you should do?

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May

Or maybe he'll.

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May

Say you do whatever you like.

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Jack

Yeah, yeah.

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May

So which is the best for you, Jeff?

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Jack

All right, I'm going.

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Jack

To go last, I'm going to let.

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Jack

I'm going to I'm.

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Jack

Going to go backwards here. I'm going to let.

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Jack

Hendrick go first, Hendrick. What do you think?

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May

1st is.

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Hendrick

Well, to be honest, it's quite tough, but I have discussed this kind of topic like 2 days ago with my friend because you know my friend told me that he doesn't have like the close friend that can share his story with story because and you know.

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Hendrick

Sometimes it's not easy when you.

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Hendrick

Have a you know.

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Hendrick

Like a lot of problems and.

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Hendrick

Then you have to.

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Hendrick

Worry them in yourself because it's going to.

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Hendrick

Be like a.

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May

Poison for you. So I think for really.

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Hendrick

It's more better to have like a friend or you know, he or she is a good listener for me. Yeah, because sometimes when for me, like when I have a lot of problems, I just need like a friend that I can so I can share my story together. I don't maybe I don't need that.

00:03:31

Hendrick

Price, but I just need, you know, like the the the person to listen to me at least. Like I believe that, you know like.

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Hendrick

Like they're they're still, there is still a person that cares about me. Yeah. So I just need, like, a good listener.

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May

So you just need a friend to listen to you most of the time. That's sweet.

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Hendrick

Exactly, at least. At least it.

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Hendrick

Can reduce my stress.

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Hendrick

Yes. Or, you know, like for me from.

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Hendrick

Like depression or something like that.

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May

Yeah, OK, but this is.

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Layla

Yeah. For me, honestly, as you know, guys usually I don't know, but I feel like usually women like to talk to someone more than others, give her advice and.

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Layla

Some so maybe.

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Layla

That resolve or they try to fix your problem. So usually I want to talk and others listen to me, especially when I in when I'm in very hard. The situation, as Hendrick mentioned, I need to.

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Layla

Will deal or maybe release my stress. My sadness. I know it's not good, just.

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Layla

To talk and others other listen to you. You need some advice on good advice, but in this case I I have to ship this. I have to choose only one thing, so I will go with the to have a good, a good or maybe great listener.

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May

So most of the time you will be like.

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May

Hey, you just listen to me. Don't say anything.

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Layla

Yeah, so like this.

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May

I think Jeff will have a different answer from us. What do you think, Jeff?

00:05:39

Jack

Well, I think Leila's right. I mean, I think that like if you ever read the book, men are from Mars, women are from Venus, Men want solutions.

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Jack

And women want people to listen to them. Hendrick. I don't. I'm not sure I understand your answer, but because you chose to listen. But I'm joking. I'm joking.

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Jack

I think you write like Layla's right? Like just having someone listen to you is is like therapy. You know, just someone to like, actually and hear you and and let you kind of vent your feelings and everything but.

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Jack

I don't really care about that. So what I want is I want like really good advice so that I can use it to make my podcast better or make some money or something. So even though my friend never listens to me, every once in a while he'll drop a little diamond piece of advice.

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Jack

Like little gold, you know little gold bricks that I can pick up and I can use them. And so in that case, I'm gonna go with a friend. Who?

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Jack

Maybe doesn't listen to me very well, but drops some really good advice every once in a while that I can use to make my life better. And I'll let my audience members be my listeners. So I'll just do the podcast and everybody can listen to me. But my friend can give me advice.

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Jack

So I'm gonna go against Hendrick.

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Jack

And Layla's answer for this one.

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Layla

OK.

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May

When you just drop a head.

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May

Then will pop up with. The solution. Is that what you're trying to say? Ohh OK.

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Jack

Exactly. If I'm some kind of difficult problem and be like, hey man, what am I gonna do? He's like, you do AB and C and everything will be fine. I'm like, great, I'll do it and.

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May

So that.

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May

That is interesting to.

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May

Know yeah, you love solution more than everything, yeah.

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Jack

Yes, that's right. Cause I venture from Mars, I'm from Mars, so we like solutions, yeah.

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May

OK.

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Hendrick

Yeah. So I think Leilani, we are from Phoenix, yeah.

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Jack

You're from Venus? Yeah, I'm from Mars. I'm. You guys are from Venus. Wait, what about?

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Jack

Are you from Mars?

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May

I think I will be on the east side. So for me I need people.

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May

To listen to me.

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May

Most of the time.

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May

Like you understand, the feeling that that is.

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May

Be too tough or too hard and no one would like to listen to us. OK, the feeling is so stressful and we just.

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May

Wanted to cry when nobody wants to spend time with you. Listen to whatever you want to say and for me, I most of the time I don't need any solution. I just need to express my feeling. How sad I am. And maybe and.

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May

Someone cheated me. I just wanted them.

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May

To know how.

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May

I feel so. Who doesn't know? Just sit down and listen.

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May

Me and trust me, the person who.

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May

We meet the person who's a great listener while they are listening without we realizing.

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May

They were also.

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May

Some solution like instant solution like that, so we don't need a a person who just tell us what to do from A-Z enough a great listener from so that's my idea.

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Hendrick

All right, all right.

00:09:29

Jack

Hendrick, why don't you jump in?

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Jack

What do you think?

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Hendrick

Yeah, I.

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Hendrick

Mean like?

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Hendrick

For me, if I have if I have.

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Hendrick

Like a a problem. And then if I have to choose like a friend and then if if it becomes like a friend that he or she is not a good listener.

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Hendrick

I think I.

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Hendrick

I don't want to share my story with.

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Hendrick

Those kind of people, because I mean like sometimes.

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Hendrick

You know like.

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Hendrick

People, when they have a lot of.

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Hendrick

Problems, they just.

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Hendrick

Need a listener.

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Hendrick

To to listen to.

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Hendrick

Their story. So that's why. And I also believe like a lot of people like did the phrase and then they just killed themselves because no one listened to them. No one listened to them.

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May

Yeah, you're right.

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May

Because nobody wants to listen completely, they they are repeating the same thing.

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May

Again and again.

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May

But that is what they think.

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Hendrick

Yeah, and also.

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May

If you guys could you guys?

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Jack

Repeat that one more time. I wasn't listen.

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Hendrick

Ohh really so.

00:10:24

Jack

I'm just kidding. Yeah.

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May

Please tell me the solution the solution project.

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Hendrick

Yeah. So.

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Hendrick

Yeah, I mean like as I said before like, you know, like a lot of people like when they depress and then they decided to kill themselves because because they don't have like a friend or like people that listen to their.

00:10:44

Hendrick

Sorry. Yeah. So they just need like, people that listen to their story. That's it and.

00:10:50

Hendrick

You know it's not.

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Hendrick

Good. Yeah. And I I think like it's not good when you you have like a store a problem and then you want to start with a friend and then your friend is like he or she is not a good listener and then you know like.

00:11:03

May

Like running away, you know, sometimes.

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Hendrick

Yeah, and yeah, and when you want to, for example, like when you want, you tell your story and then see or see like try, try to tell about their stories also does not.

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May

Yeah, it shows.

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Hendrick

Really good. Yeah.

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Hendrick

Those those not. Uh yeah, they, they.

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May

Selfish, right? Right.

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Hendrick

Are not like good listeners.

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Hendrick

Yeah, even even when they even they have.

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Hendrick

Like good advice, I think that's.

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May

Not that's not good.

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May

Yeah, they should listen because I feel they should listen. Visit first.

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May

And then then they can make up their home.

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May

Whether they should say anything.

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Jack

Yeah, be quiet fast. To fast to listen and slow to speak. Right. Isn't that the expression? Quick to listen. Slow to speak. Yeah. You guys changed my mind. I my you know, you're so emotionally healthy the three.

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Hendrick

Yes. Yeah.

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Jack

Of you are so emotionally.

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Jack

Healthy. And then there's me with my black heart. You know, my little tiny black heart? Barely.

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Hendrick

You are very good person day.

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May

Actually you can speak with your mind.

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May

I don't see anything wrong in the.

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May

Because of course people need solution as well so.

00:12:18

Layla

I think I think.

00:12:19

Jack

It's right though. I mean, I think I think you're right. Like a real true friend is somebody that actually listens to you and hears you and. And that's the kind of relationship that a healthy relationship that people need and want and look for when they're choosing their friends. So I you guys are definitely right. I I I'm outvoted.

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Jack

3:00 to 1:00 and I think you guys made the right decision and listeners out there.

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Jack

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Jack

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Jack

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Jack

And yeah, we'll see you next.

00:13:53

Hendrick

Bye. Bye. Bye bye bye bye.

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