The Therapy Edit Confessions - I self sabotage my career
Nov 15, 2024
In this enlightening discussion, listeners hear about the struggle with self-sabotage and fear of failure in the workplace. Anna addresses how childhood experiences can amplify these feelings, making failure feel overwhelmingly painful. She emphasizes reframing failure as a mere attempt rather than a reflection of self-worth. Practical advice includes acting before feeling confident and embracing the complex feelings of competence and self-doubt. Ultimately, the message is clear: trying is essential for growth, even if it comes with risk.
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Failure Feels Like An Identity Threat
- Failure can feel like a threat to your identity when past criticism linked worth to success.
- Anna Mathur explains that this makes people avoid risk to protect their sense of self.
Reframe Failure To Protect Self-Worth
- Reframe failures as situational by saying things like "That didn't go as I intended."
- This separates the outcome from your identity and reduces shame according to Anna Mathur.
Try First; Failure Without Trying Is Certain
- Put yourself forward rather than avoiding opportunities, because not trying guarantees you won't get them.
- Anna Mathur notes applying still yields feedback and growth even when you don't win.
