Vedic Worldview

How to Move Forward from a Divorce or Separation

Jan 29, 2024

This podcast episode explores the idea of moving forward from a divorce or separation, challenging the notion of permanence in relationships. It emphasizes the importance of happiness and reframing life changes. The episode discusses the complexities of separation and divorce, and highlights the advantages of adapting to change and embracing divorce as an opportunity for personal transformation. It also explores the concept of baseline happiness and the advantage of Vedic meditators in crafting a positive narrative after change.

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Quick takeaways

Marriage, separation, and divorce can all lead to happiness, as the purpose of relationships is to find joy and if that is no longer present, separation can be an opportunity for greater happiness.

Experimenting with happiness through an A, B, A, B design can help individuals determine if they are happier without their partner, and if so, separation or divorce can be a valid and positive choice for personal growth and finding a new formula for happiness.

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The Happiness of Marriage, Separation, and Divorce

The podcast discusses the concept that marriage, separation, and divorce can all lead to happiness. The speaker suggests that the word 'marriage' signifies happiness, and the same can be said for separation and divorce. The speaker highlights that the purpose of entering a relationship or getting married is to find happiness and joy in the company of another person. However, if the relationship no longer brings happiness, it is essential to challenge the assumption and consider separation as an opportunity to explore greater happiness. The speaker emphasizes the need for adaptability and revitalization in relationships and suggests that separation and divorce can be a positive change if it leads to increased happiness.

Introduction

3min

Expectations and Support in Marriage

3min

The Science of Separation and Divorce

6min

Navigating Change and Takes in Life

2min

Adapting to Change and Embracing Divorce

11min

A quick scan of the internet tells us that divorce and separation rank highly for most people as far as stressful events go, often coming second only after the death of a loved one.

This is not surprising, given how much weight is put into the idea of committed relationships being permanent in most cultures around the world.

Thom reminds us in this episode that, given that change is always occurring, perhaps our expectations of permanence in relationships are unrealistic in the first place.

With that being the case, he offers up an alternative perspective, one that recognizes and honors change and which allows us to decouple progressively and without unwanted stress.

Episode Highlights:

[00:45] It's All About Happiness

[02:50] Reframing Relationships and Life Changes

[04:09] Change and Renewal in Relationships

[05:27] Relationship Expiry and Transitioning to Happiness

[06:27] Contemplating Divorce (for 60 Years)

[07:50] Experimenting with Happiness

[09:07] A/B A/B Design to Be Happier

[10:48] No Mistakes

[12:28] Separation as a Catalyst for Personal Transformation

[13:56] Unwedding

[16:05] The Unfair Advantage of a Vedic Meditator