The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

The Dating Doctor: "Start Dating Like It's Your Job!", "Dating Apps Are Impacting Us More Than We Realise!"

Aug 26, 2024

Dr. Orion Taraban, a psychologist and author, delves into modern romantic dynamics and the shifting landscape of relationships. He discusses the importance of sex in relationships and reveals insights into dating apps’ effectiveness. The conversation focuses on the crisis of masculinity, the unique challenges men face, and how emotional resonance is key in dating. Additionally, he explores the impact of pornography, the value exchange in relationships, and strategies for men to improve their dating experiences and attractiveness.

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Orion Taraban

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Dr. Orion highlights how female empowerment can lead to a focus on high-value men, complicating relationship stability for many women.

The rise of dating apps, while providing access, has paradoxically diminished the quality and frequency of real-life romantic connections.

Injecting a job-search mentality into dating can enhance one's approach, promoting persistence and self-improvement for more fruitful engagements.

The pervasive influence of pornography has altered dating expectations, potentially reducing men's motivation to pursue meaningful real-life relationships.

Societal shifts in relationship dynamics may contribute to population decline, reflecting broader anxieties about connection and stability among future generations.

Deep dives

The Impact of Empowerment on Women's Choices

When women are empowered to make their own sexual decisions, they often target the top 10% of men, creating a competitive environment. This focus on high-value individuals can lead to difficulties in forming stable relationships. Many women may find themselves overlooking potentially good partners who do not meet the 'top-tier' criteria. This dynamic can exacerbate feelings of dissatisfaction and loneliness among women seeking meaningful connections.

Attraction is Projected Fantasy

01:16

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01:07

Transmutation von Sexueller Energie

01:12

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01:30

Intro

2min

Examining the Global Relationship Crisis

4min

Navigating the New Landscape of Online Dating

2min

Navigating the Crisis of Masculinity

20min

Navigating Attraction and Communication in Dating

22min

The Dynamics of Modern Dating and Sexual Marketplace Challenges

2min

Value Exchange in Relationships

13min

Navigating Modern Interactions: Men, Women, and Societal Change

2min

Mastering the Art of Approach

19min

10.

The Nature of Love: Transactional or Gifted?

4min

11.

Navigating Modern Relationships: The Impact of Pornography

23min

12.

Redefining Modern Masculinity and Personal Responsibility

5min

13.

Navigating Relationship Dynamics

20min

14.

Empowering Perspectives on Relationships and Personal Growth

3min

If love feels like magic, then Dr Orion is here to tell the truths behind the illusion

Dr Orion Taraban is a psychologist, host of the podcast ‘PsycHacks’, and the author of the book, ‘The Value Of Others: Understanding the Economic Model of Relationships to Get (and Keep) More of What You Want in the Sexual Marketplace'.

In this conversation, Dr Orion and Steven discuss topics such as, the importance of sex in relationships, the best way to use dating apps, how monogamy benefits men, and the impact of pornography on dating.

(00:00) Intro

(00:38) The Relationship & Sex Crisis

(03:01) How The Relationship Crisis Is Affecting Us

(05:07) Common Problems Men Are Facing In Modern Relationships

(05:56) Are Dating Apps Really Helping?

(06:31) The Crisis Of Masculinity: What Men Are Going Through

(07:21) How Gender Dynamics Have Shifted Over Time

(09:46) Andrew Tate And The Rise Of Performative Masculinity

(13:57) Why Men Need To Feel Needed In Relationships

(16:14) The Unique Challenges Women Face In Today's World

(17:05) My Professional Journey: What Led Me Here

(18:13) Understanding The Problems Both Men And Women Face

(20:19) Applying Business Strategies To Improve Relationships

(22:48) Why Women Seek Marriage: A Deeper Look

(26:10) Helping Men Improve Their Lives And Relationships

(28:38) How To Increase Your Attractiveness

(29:57) The Importance Of Surface Marketing In Dating

(32:52) How To Get Better At Meeting Women

(35:05) Tips For Men To Boost Their Attractiveness

(35:44) How Men Should Communicate Effectively

(39:26) Why You Don’t Need Money To Attract Women

(40:20) How I Completely Transformed My Life

(42:46) Tips On Keeping A Partner Long-Term

(45:19) Why A Relationship's First Crisis Is Crucial

(47:44) Why The Top 10% Of Men Are Having The Most Sex

(49:42) Is A Relationship An Exchange Of Value?

(52:43) How Our Communities Have Evolved Over Time

(55:25) Why Absence Can Be A Recipe For Better Sex

(57:35) Is Monogamy Natural? Exploring The Debate

(58:02) Is Gold Digging Just Another Transaction?

(01:03:34) Why Men Are Terrified Of Women

(01:06:07) What Really Happens To Beautiful People?

(01:08:35) How To Turn A No Into A Yes

(01:12:36) The Biggest Mistakes Men Make When Attracting Women

(01:14:37) The Most Effective Pickup Line I’ve Used

(01:17:11) How To Handle Interactions With Very Attractive Women

(01:20:36) Should Women Make The First Move? Here’s How

(01:24:02) What Is Love? Understanding This Complex Emotion

(01:28:08) The Impact Of Porn On Modern Relationships

(01:29:01) The OnlyFans Phenomenon: What It Means For Relationships

(01:33:27) Libido, Sex, And The Role Of Pornography

(01:37:53) How To Change A Man's Behavior For The Better

(01:44:33) Advice For Those Struggling To Find Love

(01:46:50) How AI Will Change Relationships Forever

(01:51:50) How To Be A Man In 2024: Key Insights

(01:56:54) Is Being Selfish The Key To Happiness?

(01:58:41) Dr. Orion's Selection Criteria Explained

(02:05:16) The Most Important Thing We Haven’t Discussed

(02:13:53) The Final Question Every Guest Must Answer

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The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

The Dating Doctor: "Start Dating Like It's Your Job!", "Dating Apps Are Impacting Us More Than We Realise!"

Episode guests

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

The Impact of Empowerment on Women's Choices

The Crisis of Modern Relationships

Dating as a Job: Strategies for Success

The Role of Pornography in Modern Relationships

The Relationship Crisis and Societal Implications

The Challenges of Being a Man Today

The Nature of Performative Masculinity

Navigating Female Perspectives and Expectations

The Essential Role of Communication in Relationships

Attraction is Projected Fantasy

Take action and review

Transmutation von Sexueller Energie

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The Dating Doctor: "Start Dating Like It's Your Job!", "Dating Apps Are Impacting Us More Than We Realise!"

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Deep dives

The Impact of Empowerment on Women's Choices

The Crisis of Modern Relationships

Dating as a Job: Strategies for Success

The Role of Pornography in Modern Relationships

The Relationship Crisis and Societal Implications

The Challenges of Being a Man Today

The Nature of Performative Masculinity

Navigating Female Perspectives and Expectations

The Essential Role of Communication in Relationships

Attraction is Projected Fantasy

Take action and review

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